Writer. Designer. Aspiring Lady-of-Leisure…


So, in case it wasn’t immediately apparent from my logo (I designed that by the way), my name is Roxane Lapa, and it is my pleasure to have you on my site (I designed that too). I also wrote this stuff.

If you’ve ever tried it, and you aren’t a narcissist, you’ll know that writing about yourself is super awkward. It’s like going for a job interview and your potential boss man says “So, tell me a bit about yourself”. Immediately your scumbag brain will want to operate your mouth to claim that you enjoy long walks on the beach. You have a sensation that’s not the answer he’s looking for and just stare ahead, wild-eyed, while your brain gears grind to a halt. I may or may not be exaggerating how difficult this is, but the point is I don’t really know what you want to know. In light of that, here are some arbitrary ‘Roxane’ facts…

  • No, that is not a typo. My name is, in fact, spelt with one ‘n’. To tell you the truth, I’ve become quite numb to people spelling my name incorrectly, so I won’t be upset if you do – except if you are a close family member or writing it on an official document.
  • Yes, I am aware of the fact that I don’t need to turn on the red light. Thank you for that.
  • Currently I design things for a living and I write for fun. I am not a professionally trained writer, so although I try my best, you will likely come across questionable sentence structures and the odd typo. Please don’t be mean about it. Rather, drop me a mail to let me know so I can fix it and save face.
  • I’m married. My husband José is a disturbingly handsome personal trainer, so feel free to contact him about questions involving abs, squats and other professional questions. For anything else I will cut you. Not really, but really.
  • We have two hairy children, and it’s not because my husband is Portuguese. It’s because they are cats. No, I’m not barren…I don’t think so anyway. The actual reason we don’t have two-legged children is because they’re expensive and noisy…and I’m not real big on the patience department..or the wallet department. Cats don’t demand iPads. Just sayin’.
  • We are blessed to live in beautiful South Africa, and yes, we most certainly do ride our giraffes to the grocery store. Mine has dropped suspension and an mp3 player.
  • We attend a little church full of down to earth Christians who aspire to be like Jesus. Some are a bit kooky, but that’s ok. Variety is the spice of life, I always say. Besides, I’m probably one of the kooky ones.

In short, life is good. I have a lot to be thankful for. I have a roof over my head, a loving family, usually good weather to enjoy, and I have my health. What I’ve learned is that although life isn’t perfect, when you’re grateful for what you have, it can seem that way. Still, just because I’m happy, doesn’t mean that I can sit back and ignore those who aren’t. I have this annoying thing called empathy that makes me want to help people. It’s my aim with my recently released book How I overcame Panic Disorder Without Drugs to help those who suffer with extreme anxiety like I once did. My upcoming book Answering the Atheist is, in a manner of speaking, also a self-help book. It addresses fourteen of the best questions posed by skeptics. Now, I’m not kidding myself into thinking that I am suddenly some wise guru that has the answer to all of life’s questions, but I have a deep desire to share what I’ve learned in my life with anyone willing to listen.
Writing helps me do that.